Gender Issues in The Muslim Community

Gender Issues in The Muslim Community

Gender relations and roles are a constant focus of discussion and debate within the Muslim community. Occasionally, and increasingly, the debates are degenerating into conflicts. Although I believe, the community is maturing and my fervent hope is that the conflictual period in gender relations within the community is cresting, part of me feels this hope is just that – hope.

It is important to realize that a considerable feeling of inequity does exist on the part of many Muslim women. In some communities, women are excluded from participating in the decision making process; in others they are excluded even from the mosque itself. Exclusion from the decision making process happens both intentionally and unintentionally. For example, even in communities where the board or other formal leadership structure has female representation, decision-making still happens in a largely informal way. Discussions take place in the prayer halls, in mosque hallways, at Tim Horton’s, in gyms (yes Muslims occasionally exercise) and elsewhere. People congregate around the Imams after prayers, in social gatherings and after lectures…etc. The drive that precedes certain decisions rarely happen in formal town hall settings where broad discussion can take place and men and women have equal chances to participate. This is not entirely unique to the Muslim community and has long been a sore spot for women seeking to establish their careers where the golf course, the country club or the gym is a place where connections are established and relationships developed.

Segregation within the prayer space can, in many situations, serve to perpetuate that exclusion from decision-making. As noted above, in many communities the after-prayer socialization and discussion (which takes place in the prayer hall) occurs in the absence of women, and yet it is these discussions that set the tone for decision making within the community. Many individuals who have served on boards of community organizations and mosques are not foreign to the experience of arriving at a formal board meeting to find that the discussions have already taken place and the decisions already made.

This tradition of informal decision making does not only exclude women – because they are absent from the places in which such discussions take place – it also excludes communities/individuals who are not part of that social construct. Those outside the circle of social interaction are essentially blocked from participating effectively. For Muslim women, as for others so excluded, this is especially painful because it reflects a minority-within-a-minority exclusion.

Finally, another significant cause of this feeling of inequity on the part of the Muslim women is the reaction of Muslim men to these exclusionary practices. It is not unfair to say that the majority of Muslim men do not understand the deep-seated feelings of inequity that Muslim women experience, let alone empathize with their fellow Muslims. Only a minority understands this as a community issue, rather than just a “women’s issue”.

When Muslim women voice their concerns, one of the most common reactions on the part of men is one that effectively delegitimizes women’s concerns. Women are either told (or thought) to be “exaggerating” the situation or they are told that they are falling into the trap of “Western Feminism”. Effectively, Muslim women are being told that they are ignorant of Islamic rulings and customs; that they are losing their Islamic identity or that they have ‘sold out’ to a non-Islamic frame of reference. In the eyes of many Muslim women, this adds insult to injury. The perception on the part of many Muslim women is, of course, the complete opposite: By excluding women from the community’s important affairs, it is the men who are betraying Islamic principles. Yet, in addition to betraying these principles, the men also behave in a patronizing and condescending manner.

As this pattern continues in many communities, conflict that was once latent becomes more manifest and manifest conflict becomes outright discord.

How do we address this disparity in perception between how men and women see their commitment to Islam and to their communities? We all have biases in how we approach issues. For many, the solution should be pragmatic and practical… a series of steps aimed at resolving the issue should be undertaken quickly. While I don’t necessarily disagree with that approach, my bias has always been that for a long lasting solution to long lasting problems, it is essential that we agree on a frame of reference or a methodology through which we can analyze the issues.

In this regard, almost all Muslims are in agreement that we ought to strive to find a solution within Islam itself – our faith that we have consciously adopted, the Word of God in which we have chosen to believe and the wisdom of the Prophet peace be upon him whom we have chosen to follow.

Furthermore, whenever we address issues of this nature it is essential to remember that we are striving to find an answer; not an answer to assuage those who are troubled, or comfort those who are upset, or vindicate those who feel aggrieved. Rather we are seeking to live out our Islam as we can best understand it. We can never eliminate the effect of our environment and indeed one of the functions of our faith is for it to interact with and resolve the conflicts of our environments. We can, however, strive to arrive at an understanding of our faith based on principles that have long been intrinsic to it.

What does this mean with respect to the issue of gender roles?

Let’s consider the first issue considered in this article – the sense of inequity that many Muslim women have and the subsequent response of many male counterparts. Al-Tirmidhi narrated that an Ansari woman, Um ‘Imara, commented to the Prophet peace be upon him one day that she felt that the Qur’an addresses only men, and this was the occasion for the revelation of verse 35 in Surat Al-Ahzab: “Muslim men and women, believing men and women, the devout men and women….”

It is important to note that Um ‘Imara’s sense of exclusion was not met by derision by the Prophet peace be upon him. Nor was it met with a patronizing, ‘here here, dear – you just don’t understand’ type of response. In fact the divine response was the revelation of the verse that sets out an important principle: In all verses of the Qur’an, the address to the believers is an address to both men and women unless there is a categorical indication to indicate otherwise

Similarly, when women complained to the Prophet that their access to him was limited, he allocated a set time for their exclusive benefit. The allocation of that set time did not preclude them from also approaching him during his general assembly; but it served to remind future generations of the importance of ensuring access.

Finally, in this regard, it is useful to recount a hadith narrated by Um Salama. She relates that she had never heard the Prophet peace be upon him speak about a specific aspect of his description of the End of Time. One day, her servant was washing her hair and the call was heard for people to gather at the mosque to hear the Prophet peace be upon him speak on this topic. She instructed her servant to wrap her hair so she could hurry out and her servant commented that the Prophet was only calling for the men. Um Salama’s response was that the Prophet was calling for the people to gather and she was one of the people.

The question for our time is how individuals can change their communities to follow the example of the Prophet when they are not doing so?

I suppose the most fundamental of all Prophetic practices as noted above is for communities to ensure that women have significant, unimpeded access to community leaders and decision makers. Access is not established through claims of the same; rather, access is established through set policies and procedures. This would be analogous to the Prophet peace be upon him setting aside dedicated time to speak to the women in addition to speaking to the congregation as a whole.

How can we make ‘access’ a living reality in our communities? Some ideas would include ensuring that our institutions are “women-friendly”; having regular town hall meetings with the community leadership; explicit consultative procedures prior to making major decisions; providing childcare facilities for events; ensuring that advertising for mosque events is not done solely through men-controlled venues e.g. the announcement at jumu’ah over the din of noise…etc.

Access, however, important, is only the most basic of all rights. More on “roles” later….

The Race Day | Poem

The Race Day | Poem

I was going though my old files and came across this – I think I wrote this in 1993… I like it (even after 20 years) because every time I have to drive into Toronto, this is what it feels like the other drivers are doing ….

 

The Race Day

Red. Fingers tighten anxiously

around rugged steering wheels.

Red. Still red. Feet hover tensely

above gas pedals.

Red. Not long to go now.

Closer and Closer.

Green.

Go.

The race is on.

The cars surge forward,

Each eager to make the journey,

In the shortest possible time.

Beads of sweat fall from the faces

Of drivers as they fall behind.

A grin of satisfaction can be seen

On the face of a driver,

Who had just concluded a successful manoeuver

Which put him two cars ahead.

 

It was a typical rush hour in downtown Cairo.

As usual, there was no trophy for the winner.

The True Measure of a Civilization

The True Measure of a Civilization

Does the following story sound familiar? In a country going through rough economic times, a man steals a loaf of bread to feed his sister’s hungry children. He is caught and punished but the punishment seems so disproportionate to the crime. Despite this violation of the law, the man seems decent. Through an act of personal charity and kindness extended to him, he goes on to exemplify the best of what a human being can be. Society manages to establish the rule of law, but seems to somehow have lost its true measure.

No, this is not the story of Jean Valjean. This is a story that unfolds in a modern Canadian city in 2011. A man works in a grocery store stocking shelves – let’s call him Jim. He wife works at another minimum wage-paying job. We’ll call her Pat. Together they have three children. If you pause to work out the math, between the two of them they earn – before tax, $38,437 a year, assuming they work 50 weeks per year and never miss a day. Their jobs do not provide “benefits”. After rent, transportation and food, there is precious little left at the end of the pay cheque for clothing, school supplies..etc.. But they both struggle along and persist because they refuse to become “unemployed”.

At the height of the flu season, Pat misses three days of work because of being unwell. At the end of that week, she is back at work, but Jim gets a call from her at his work. She had just gotten home and was thinking to get the kids’ lunch prepared early for the following school day.  There is nothing in the fridge and Pat asks Jim if he could pick up some deli meat and cheese on his way home. Small problem: it’s near the end of the pay period and both are flat broke.

It’s a tough situation. Jim has never stolen anything in his life before. He agonizes over what he is about to do but he thinks he has few options. So he takes a package of deli meat and a package of sliced cheese and he puts them in his jacket pocket. As he is leaving the building, he is confronted by a security guard who tell him he was observed stealing. Out come the deli meat and cheese packages and Jim is given the choice to resign or be fired on the spot. Not wanting the indignity of being fired, he chooses to resign.

The city is going through some rough economic times and Jim looks for work but 4 months later – nada… and so he is collecting EI…. and so now, this family of five is subsisting on a total income of less than $30K per year. Whereas they had squeaked by before, now they are in real trouble.

This is a true story…some of the details have been changed, but it is, nevertheless, very much a true story. I want to be clear: I am not, in any way, shape or form, condoning theft. Nor am I commenting on whether it was appropriate for the employer to fire Jim (reminder again – not his real name). Nevertheless, it is a tragic story.

What makes this and other stories of poverty in our society even more tragic is that poverty is entirely eradicable. I was recently pointed to a report produced by the Senate (yes, that body actually does produce some good things) called In From The Margins: A Call to Action. The report suggests that better policy choices can result in lifting families and individuals out of poverty AND reduce government spending/save money.

Many people fall in the trap of saying that there is no real poverty in Canada. That may be true if our comparator group is poverty in India, Africa or elsewhere. But it is not and it should not be. One definition of poverty that I recently came across speaks to the inadequacy of resources that forces the poor to live on the margins of society, unable to have the opportunities that an average member of society has.

I was motivated to write this piece after hearing the story above last week. Coincidentally (meaning occurring at the same time) the launch of a religious social action coalition to fight poverty in London, ON took place this week. It is modelled on a similar effort that started in Newfoundland (http://candidatesagainstpoverty.ca/). The coalition brings together many faith groups including the Muslim community, many Christian denominations and the Jewish community (http://spon.ca/london-tests-power-of-prayer-in-bid-to-close-rich-poor-gap/2011/04/17/).

The launch was held at the London Muslim Mosque and included presentations by Martha Powell of theLondon Community Foundation and Ross Fair, Executive Director of the Community Services Department of the City of London. Both presentations were inspiring and went a long way to show that poverty is a real problem but for which there are real solutions.

It’s been often said that the true measure of a society lies in how it provides for the poor. We don’t do a bad job, but we still have a very very long way to go. Look up your city’s poverty reduction strategy and see how you can contribute to it.

Fear Is The Path To The Dark-Side

Fear Is The Path To The Dark-Side

This is a presentation I gave at a conference on the relationship between Islam and the “West” in 2007. I generally don’t like this characterization because, as a very astute observer once pointed out, Islam is a non-geographically constrained faith whereas the “West” is. Some of the references are specific to 2007 like the National Post article I reference, but I am sure there are current analogies you can invoke.

Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

The title I gave to this talk invokes the wisdom of Master Yoda, probably the shortest and greenest philosopher in history. Yoda refers to fear as the first step on the path of personal darkness. It is important to note that in the context of the Star Wars mythology, the dark side imbues a person with power – just as much or even more than the good side of the Force. That power is, itself, one of the dangers of the Dark Side. To borrow a theme from another popular culture movie phenomenon, the Matrix (Reloaded), Neo asks the Oracle what the Merovingian wants. To this she responds, ‘what all men with power want: More power.”

I will argue in the next 25 minutes that fear has become the dominant theme in regarding Islam and Muslims in recent years. It has become so, not because it was inevitable, not because it could not have been otherwise, but because men with power wanted more power and fear was the most certain way of achieving that goal. And when playing the fear card succeeded, it became self-perpetuating because of the seductiveness of power. Whereas most of my argument will highlight international events, we are hardly immune from this phenomenon.

It can be argued that fear is the most primitive of human emotions. Fear, more than any other emotion can be credited with the very survival of the human race. Fear is what got us here, so to speak. For imagine how many humans would have survived if the first encounter between man and deadly beast had not imbued that first man with intense fear.

But if fear improved our chances of survival, it is altogether another emotion that gave us progress. Courage, taking risks, is the human emotion that truly got us here, so to speak. For imagine where we would be today if Columbus and company had not braved the oceans to reach the shores of this continent. (I have some friends near Caledonia who feel that everyone would have been better off if Columbus had never reached the shores of this continent, but that is an altogether different discussion.)

Where would human beings be if the first human being did not go home after his encounter with the first beast and thought of ways to overcome that fear. We are here, in one sense, because someone decided that through creativity, preparation and planning, that beast could be overcome. Someone was brave enough and so as a result we are not all vegetarian – so to speak.

Let’s take this a step further and say that our real survival depends not on fear alone or courage alone, but on the balance of the two. Or at least on the transformation of fear into understanding and balancing that with courage. As human beings were liberated from that all-consuming fear of others, we began to understand the world around us and we understood that we need not kill every animal in order to guarantee our own survival. In fact if we did that, we would be doomed. We began to understand that in order for us to truly survive and prosper, there has to be balance and a measure of harmony in the universe. Fear transformed by understanding became respect and mutual interdependence.

I submit that things are no different today. The only thing that has changed is the source of our anxieties and our fears and the ways in which we can transform fear into respect. Unfortunately we live in a world in which many people gain much by peddling fear. Some earn a living out of this, others gain stature and power while yet others derive an internal satisfaction from others being as afraid as they are. “Misery”, as the saying goes, “loves company”.

In the post-9/11 world, and for the time being that remains an appropriate appellation of our world, fear has been the dominant theme in viewing the relationship between Islam and us. The devices that have been used to maintain that theme have been many. They have ranged from being subtle, pseudo-scholarly and superficially objective to having the subtlety of a sledgehammer.

And so for example, we read seemingly objective newspaper reports on how Muslim immigrants to Denmark represent only 3% of the general population, but 20% of the prison population and when one considers violent crime, the proportion is even higher. The conclusion is never explicitly stated but, of course, the implication is that if you allow Muslim immigration into Canada to go unchecked you can expect to be knifed or raped or meet an otherwise violent end.

Some of these arguments are well crafted and require intimate knowledge of the specific situation, the veracity of the data presented and the methodology with which it was collected in order to formulate an opinion. Much of this is beyond the scope of the average reader. In the specific case of the National Post article on Muslim immigrants in Denmark, a rebuttal was published by two Danish MPs, one whom used to be the Minister of social services.

But enough of the subtleties. Surely when we review the events of the last few years there is obviously something to fear from Muslims. Starting with the destruction of the World Trade Center, through the storm over the now infamous “Danish Cartoons”, the little unpleasantness with the Pope’s Regensburg speech and the unspeakable carnage in Iraq and the generally angry appearance of the Muslim population that appears on our television screens and newspaper pages whenever something ostensibly offends their sensibilities. Surely not all such angry and violent people are extremists. Surely there must be something that makes Muslims an angry, violent lot against whom we have to guard.

Surely I cannot argue, as I did at the beginning, that fear of Islam and Muslims is merely a construct used by rich and powerful men to maintain their power. But I am arguing just that.

Let us consider the events of the twentieth century. Most countries considered Muslim laboured under direct foreign control and occupation whether it was the countries of the Middle East and North Africa like Egypt, Sudan and Algeria or Asian countries like Indonesia and what is now Pakistan. Despite this direct foreign control, and a struggle for independence that was violent at times, the dominant theme in the relationship between the Muslim and non-Muslim worlds was ‘if you leave us be, we will get along well.’ This is reflected strongly in the intellectual and cultural life of these societies. In Egypt, for example, the intellectual discourse was all about ‘what is wrong with us and why can’t we get ahead’. Foreign control figured only in a minor capacity. I can cite a number of authors, like Ahmad Shawqy the pre-eminent poet of modern Arabic or the “Shikwa” and its “Jawab” by Sir Muhammad Iqbal, the leading Indian Muslim thinker of the twentieth century. The Shikwa is a “complaint” to God about the status of Muslims while its “Jawab”, the answer to it, address purely internal factors.

The latter half of the twentieth century saw a progressive shift in the Muslim world from introspective to blaming external factors. There was no longer direct foreign control, but it would be naïve to think there was no proxy control. The powers that be at the time, the United States and the Western bloc and the Soviet Union and the Eastern bloc felt enough fear of each other that they sought as much control over the remaining nations as they could muster. And so it was that the United States and the Soviet Union never once came to blows, but they armed, encouraged and perpetuated proxy conflicts elsewhere.

In the Muslim world, this meant tremendous suffering. None of that suffering is seen or appreciated by us. When I have spoken to other audiences I have sought to minimize the argument I am about to make. But this is an academic gathering and so I will be blunt.

We, ladies and gentlemen, have blood on our hands. We are not the source of all evil in the world, but we have blood on our hands. Unlike Lady Macbeth, however, who saw blood even when there was none, we persist in denying any even when our hands are drenched. Let me give concrete examples.

In the struggle for independence, by 1960 more than one million Algerians had died before France finally relinquished control. Fast forward to 1991 and the military junta overthrowing the democratic choice of Algerians and precipitating a conflict in which several hundred thousand Algerian have perished. This junta was backed by every Western nation. Move a little east to Tunisia where the advent of the regime of Ben Ali in 1987 was marked by severe repression, imprisonment and torture that still continue. The regime enjoys wide based support in the west. Move a little back in time and little more eastward and we see the former US Sercretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld smiling and shaking hands with Saddam Hussein as the United States armed Hussein to the teeth to fight with Islamic Iran. Why did we arm him? Because we were afraid.

Let’s fast forward a little into the post-9/11 era. The estimates of civilian deaths in the war in Afghanistan that followed September 11, 2001 are vague but conservatively placed at 7,000-10,000 people. The number of civilians who died in the aerial bombardment of Iraq is unknown but is estimated in the tens of thousands. But we do not know for sure. Why do we not know for sure, because as Gen Tommy Franks of US Central Command says, “we do not do body counts.”

Once place where we did do body counts is New York. We know that 2973 people died on September 11, 2001. Not approximately 3000 people, not two thousand nine hundred and change, but an exact 2973. We know their names. We have seen their faces. We know their stories. And that is as it should be, for every human life is sacred. But for the tens of thousands of innocent civilians who have died in the aftermath, there is nothing. There are no names. There aren’t even numbers. There are no stories. There are no memorials. There is no guilt, no responsibility and no accountability. Because apparently some lives are more sacred than others.

Let’s go back in time a little. July 11, 1995 was a peculiar date. In 9/11 parlance we are at time -5 years 9 month to the day. On July 11, 1995 8,000 people died at Srebrenica in Bosnia. The men and boys were separated from the women and the latter let go. The 8,000 Muslims were executed.

How etched is that incident in our collective memory? American commentators have argued that proximity is an important factor. European commentators have argued that Bosnia is closer to every other country in Europe than is America. Nor is language or culture the explanation, for European nations have bound their fates to each other despite myriad languages and cultures The numbers are staggering – almost three time as many dead in Srebrenica alone than in New York. Nor were the means of death any less barbaric. And so it is not geographic proximity, nor the scale nor the nature of the disaster that desensitize us. It is something else.

This something else is what drives the violent minority in the Muslim world to be violent and a substantial majority to be resentful. We accuse the Muslim world of suffering from an acute case of victim mentality and there is truth to that. But surely we suffer from an even more severe case of the same. For in the last 20 or thirty years we have been much more of a threat to the Muslim world than they have been to us. If one side has cause to fear from the other, it is not us that ought to fear them, but the reverse.

So why do we continue to fear them? Let’s be honest, how could we be convinced to support the invasion of Afghanistan or Iraq or sanctions against Iran or isolating Syria if we were not afraid. And if we let the numbers alone speak, that would not be sufficient and so there has to be an industry, a campaign to orchestrate that fear. Otherwise those who have plans for a New American Century or other such schemes could not muster the support of their compatriots or that of world opinion.

Let me come to a conclusion and retract some of my claims a little so that we may have time for a discussion. There is something to fear in the Muslim world today – it would be foolish to deny that altogether. However, it would be wrong to think of that danger as inherent to Islam or Muslims and neglect the events of the last 30 years – as seen by Muslims. For if we ascribe the source of our fear to Islam itself, the only solution is to create a world without Islam and that is not possible, at least not without great suffering. If we are to transform our fear, if not into respect, then at least, into mutual toleration, we have to understand how others perceive the world. At the moment, we see it in an entirely different way from the Muslim world.

There is a beautiful verse in the Qur’an that says, ‘kindness is in no measure equal to cruelty: Be kind and generous and you will find that even your harshest enemy will become your closest friend.’ I like this verse because it reminds me that there is a fundamental goodness within each human being and if one overcomes one’s fear to extend acts of kindness and generosity, then the reward may be the very extinction of fear.

I look forward to our discussion.

 

Thank you.

Senate Protest: Courage Or Anarchy? Poll

Senate Protest: Courage Or Anarchy? Poll

And now for my first poll ever….

On Friday, a young Senate page, Brigitte Depape, was fired for raising a sign that said “Stop Harper” during the GG’s Throne Speech. It was, apparently, an unprecedented act of protest. Somewhat predictably there are two points of view on this. Commentators mostly on the right suggested this was anarchy, disruption, chaos… see Matt Gurney in the NP for a good example of that argument (here).

Left-leaning commentators think she should be anointed, canonized or immortalized in some other fashion.

Where do you stand?

[Update]

Results of the Poll:
 
Do you support Bridgette DePape’s protest in the Senate?
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Total Votes: 18